Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Hello out there!

It made me sad to see my last post every time I checked in on our poor little abandoned family blog, so just in case there is anyone out there who still wonders where we are and how we're doing.. this blog's for you!  ;)

Alice is now 5, and she is also known as "Mommy's little nutball."  She is a ton of fun and truly has the biggest imagination of any child I've ever met.  She is still learning how to eat, but otherwise, she is growing up just fine.  She loves playdough, painting, and playgrounds.  I can't believe she will be a kindergarten cutie next year.

Lucy is 7, and she is still my girly girl.  She just started a new charter school last week, and so far so good!  We are working through her physical and learning difficulties as they come up with the help of the awesome team at Texas Children's Hospital.  But socially? This girl is on FIRE!  She has lots of friends, dances with a competitive team, and loves participating in our children's community theater.  She loves Barbies, high heels, and swimming.

Ben is turning 10 next week, and I can't believe he is growing up so fast.  He's everyone's best friend and he LOVES to make people laugh.  He is doing so well in school, and he makes us very proud.  He's also on competitive dance team this year, and he is one of the "company kids" at our community theater too.  He can't wait for the summer!  He also loves playing sports, swimming, and Pokemon.

Bella is 11... how the heck did that happen?!?  She is our little tender-hearted, empathetic, sweetie.  She is a math wiz, and loves reading all the Cat Warriors books she can get her hands on.  She's also on competitive dance team, a "company kid" in theater, and she is appearing around town as Sofia the First for charity and paid events.  She absolutely LOVES to be on stage whether it is singing, dancing, acting, or all of the above in musical theater.

Sophie is 14, going on 15.  She's finishing up her first year of high school.  She has blossomed this year... we call her all GLOWn up.  She's really become such a happy, confident young woman with the quickest dry wit I've ever heard.  She makes me laugh every day with her witty observations about the world around her.  She is obsessed with all things THEATER, but especially musicals.  She's also taking dance this year at school and at our studio.  She also does princess appearances as Snow White and made it all the way to Senior Company at our community theater.  We love seeing her shine.

Adam and I embarked on a "take back our health" mission.  He has lost 65 lbs this year, and I've lost 75lbs.  But he started running, so I expect him to overtake me soon... haha!  I don't run unless something really scary is chasing me.  ;)  We've done a total diet overhaul and I'm taking vitamins to manage my health conditions.  It's been great!  I'm a little over 20lbs to my goal, and then, we're hoping to grow our family by two feet.  We'll see!

Thanks for checking in.  I'm honestly so busy with my beautifully chaotic family life, my photography work, and being a stage mom for all these babies that I rarely have time to write anything down anymore.  But I am happy that I have this record of their childhoods.  It definitely goes so fast, I could cry... and I don't want to forget how much I loved each day being their mama.

Friday, March 13, 2015

I hate miscarriage.

8 years ago today, we welcomed Ben.  What a miracle.

Today is my little boy's 8th birthday, and I am trying to be cheerful.

I found out last night that a friend is having a second trimester miscarriage... or maybe a premature delivery... not sure what the right thing to say is... she is in the hospital right now.  A person I know through RCA had the same thing happen this week.  And another Catholic mama in my circle, K, laid her baby to rest this month too.

I just hate miscarriage.  There is no more eloquent way to say it.

Mine was over a year ago.  After five healthy babies, I lost one for the first time.  When I realized what was happening and saw the blood, I started screaming.  I just lost my mind.  I already loved Blaise, and could not bear to know I would never get to raise him and be his mama.  My kids would never play with him.  His life was over before he got to live.

I have gotten better over the last year... especially in the last 6 months.  But it never goes away.  And the sounds that came out of my body... pure, unabashed grief and loss... are still echoing in my ears.

Thinking of my sweet friend going through that right now, I just can't... no words can describe.  I can't stop crying.  We prayed for her baby, and after some scary times in the beginning, I thought this baby would be okay.  I can't begin to describe the hurt and pain, and I am so far on the periphery.

Praying for peace and acceptance.  He gives and takes away.

I don't know that I will ever be brave enough to try again.  To my friends who have said goodbye more than once, I can't put into words how much respect I have for you for still standing.  I feel like it would break my spirit.  Just once for me, and I still feel broken.      

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Bess Fwenn

Did some product photography today, with some help from my favorite little model. She always says, "Mama, you're my bess fwenn!"  I soak in every moment with her.

She ended the evening on her 'tage, singing her new favorite song: Werewolves of London.  Seriously.  She had to take a couple of breaks to squeal at Sophie for throwing off her groove.  Remind you of anyone, Lindsay? ;)

I'm still just putting one foot in front of the other, hoping to be better soon.

Friday, January 2, 2015

My Itsy Bitsy

Yesterday, we spent just doing chores (mainly my much-larger-job-than-I-anticipated homeschool room redo) and relaxing.  The weather here has been so cold and rainy, all week!  While they would have loved to go play outside, we spent all day inside and bundled up in warm jammies.

Alice found the stash of rainbow mini candy canes, and ate about 10 all together.  I'm always thankful for anything she will willingly eat.  Oh yes... we are still struggling, even after 2 YEARS of feeding therapy and a surgery.  ;)

She is my little ray of sunshine.  I love to hear her sing, and the way she says everything.  I've never had a child her age without already having another baby... it's kind of like she gets to be my itsy bitsy for that much longer than the others did.  She gets to stay our baby.

Thursday, January 1, 2015

Here We Go!

Here are five reasons why my life is wonderful.

We took this photo on the way to Christmas Eve Mass, and it was cold for these Houston babies!  I consider it a good omen that I have a decent photo of all five of my kids with absolutely NO photoshop head-swapping/compositing for the first time since Alice was born.  

We had a bumpy start this morning, but Adam turned it around by taking us out to Rainforest Cafe and seeing the new Annie movie at the theater.

My only New Year's Resolution is to write here everyday.  It's going to take me a long time, but I will, one by one, transfer over all of my Facebook postings and photos here too before I make it a skeletal thing.  I don't want Facebook to be my only family record anymore.  ;) 

Happy New Year!

Saturday, December 20, 2014

Angel's Embrace

Image by Lerin Wheeless 

This ornament arrived for us this week.  It's called "Angel's Embrace."  Such a beautiful way to remember the one we lost this year.  If you haven't lived through it, there are no words I can use to make you understand the depths of our sorrow.  But if you have suffered a loss, no words are necessary.

There is a quiet sadness hanging around me these days.  I have five beautiful children running, laughing, playing, shouting... yes, even fighting... in my cozy home.  I love each of them so much, it is indescribable.  They each are so different, and watching them grow and become their own people has been the greatest experience.

If all had happened as *I* would have designed it, we should have a 3 month old to buy Christmas presents for, to dress in cute jammies, to carry around to all the shows & plays that his five older siblings are putting on this week.

I know it will get easier.  It already has. But sometimes, I have to sit and cry and miss baby Blaise.

Did I ever tell you that we end every family prayer time with "Blaise Augustine, pray for us"?  I don't think I have told anyone, but it is a habit now... part of our family culture.  Sometimes it is hard to hear, actually.  But most of the time, it is beautiful to hear the name and to know there is a REAL little Saint in Heaven who prays for us, and loves us more perfectly than we can imagine here below.

Merry Christmas, sweet baby.  I'm sorry you aren't with us, but I know we will meet you one day.  Life can be such a bittersweet dance of Hope and Loss.

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Write it on your heart

"Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year."  (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

It was a rough day, from the way I woke up to the way I can't sleep!  The universe just seemed to be working against me today.  I guess everyone has "one of those days" now and then.  They are never very much fun, but its always a chance to stay patient, kind & gentle even when things are hard.  Because anyone can be virtuous when life is easy, right?  ;)

Even on a day like this though, I know I have a wonderful life.  It is an incredible blessing to have my family, be able to homeschool my children, provide them with the basics and so much more, and have a warm place to call home.  I'm so abundantly blessed. 

Even when it means getting out of bed for twenty minutes, I really want to write something here each day.  I used to meticulously record each milestone for my first baby, and did pretty well with my second, and then third.  People told me that the memories and years and babyhoods would start to run together, but I don't think I really accepted that until the last few years. 

Rather than distinct recollections of who walked when or what year it was when we did this or that... it all blurs together in some abstract, beautiful kaleidoscope that I can't quite make sense of... other than to know, I was happy.  Even when I was battling mental illness, or struggling to pay the mortgage, or trying to fit way too many different lives into the one I have... I was happy.

Maybe that's the best kind of memory to have, after all.  :)

And now that I have placed all of that here, I think I can sleep.  Tomorrow is going to be the best day of the year, I've decided.  Each new morning is a new chance to make it so.  

Monday, December 1, 2014

Guess Who's Back?

Do you know what I am thankful for? Homeschooling.

Yes, my friends & family... after a LOT of prayer, consideration, and a few professional opinions, we decided that Lucy would be a happier & healthier girl if we went back to homeschooling. She was absolutely thrilled.

This created a domino effect. Much to my SHOCK... Sophie presented a very good case for homeschooling again too, though she was the one who was most vocal about going to public school for the rest of her school career. LOL. She has so many other interests and hobbies that she wanted to spend her time on, instead of finishing her work in each class and then reading/drawing until the next one. She is so bright, even the Pre-AP class schedule wasn't challenging enough for her. And being the extremely mature young lady she is, she couldn't believe that her classmates act like a bunch of... gasp... KIDS. ;) So now she is happily working through her school day in advanced courses at home, and spending the rest of her time pursuing all of those other things that make her heart sing.

Next, Isabella begged to follow suit. She just loves to be with us, and how could I say no? She needs some extra help on spelling, but is ahead in other areas... so it is best for her to have a custom-tailored curriculum as well. And Ben... he is such an easy-going guy, he'd be happy anywhere. But he decided that he didn't want to be at school "alone."

So there you have it. I'm not teaching a co-op and I'm not scheduling photography sessions at this time, so our days are actually very manageable. I love our little family, and this path of education is the best fit for us. We are using an eclectic mix of homeschooling materials, loosely following MODG but I prefer more intensive science & math, so we are following different methods there. They have PE at the Y three days a week, and monthly field trips. They have private voice lessons, and swim classes. They are also VERY involved in dance several hours a week, as well as acting classes and performing company at our local theater.

We are so, so happy. It's like coming home after a very long and hard journey.

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Hello to my EDEL friends!

This little Instagram moment pretty much sums it up.

I saw that the "Who's Coming" page was up, and after adding you all on facebook and on my "blogs you follow" list, I decided to officially say hello!

I am so excited about this gathering, and also really nervous.  At any given moment, I never know which emotion is stronger.  :)  I'm excited because I can't wait to have a break.  I think it will be as refreshing as a retreat, and possibly the most fun I've had since Disneyworld a couple of years ago.  I love, love, love meeting new people, and the thought that the people I'm meeting are Catholic moms like me?  Even better!

I'm nervous because I will be leaving my nursing toddler for the first time overnight.  I'm also afraid that the couple of people I'm acquainted with who are going will already be hanging out with friends that they know much better, and that I will be lonely in a crowd.

I can't be the only one who is desperately wanting to connect and have fun... but also worried that she won't have anyone to connect with!  So if you are out there?  Let's talk.  I'm (relatively) normal, very friendly, love to laugh, will listen to you and fill awkward silences, and smile a lot.  :)

I'm a 33-year-old, first-year homeschooling mom of five (ages 2-11), living in the Houston suburbs.  I'm originally from Tulsa, OK and my husband is from Santa Fe, NM.  I converted to Catholicism (Easter Vigil '02) in college, because after a lot of searching, I was fascinated by Church history and apostolic succession.  I met my (also convert) husband at a Catholic retreat 10 years ago, so I have a pretty good track record with finding soulmates at these things.  ;)

I love to blog and have since 2003... but my daily posts have dwindled to monthly posts (if that) over the last few years, thanks to my busy days with five kids, taking two of them to various therapies, homeschooling, teaching at a hybrid school and owning a photography business.   My four year old is on the Autism spectrum, and she makes every day interesting and my two year old is working through some remaining developmental delays beautifully.  :)

I've been really sad lately, because we thought we were having a baby, but made a saint instead.  Our little Blaise Augustine has been enjoying Heaven since February, but it has been the hardest thing I personally have ever experienced.  I know he is there praying for us, but I want him here in my arms.  After some much-needed counseling by a wonderful priest, I'm healing.  But I've been very uncharacteristically down, withdrawn, and tired since then.

I'm going to try to focus on myself and my health this year, for the benefit of my family.  I've cut back on my outside obligations and promised Adam that I won't volunteer for anything new for at least a year.  I've given notice that I won't be teaching next year, and I got out of my photography studio lease early in effort to downsize my business.  I'll still be busy because, well, I have five kids that I'm homeschooling.  I'm also going to Mass a lot more.  I need the actual grace from Holy Eucharist to make it through the long weeks! :)

That's a proper introduction, I think.  Oh... did I mention I am long-winded?  ;)  Say hi!  I'd love to get to know you before I check out your crazy shoes.

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

April 1

Why a Christmas photo?  Because I haven't posted it yet, of course.  ;)

Hello, blog.  I've been way too busy this month, cooking everything from scratch, getting strep throat followed by a kidney infection, being overwhelmed with my jobs (homeschooling/teaching/photography), and still grieving my sweet baby to be online much.  But I do like to write here when I think about it and have a moment.  It's important to me.

Our meal plan has been really, really hard.  And then I got sick.  So... it hasn't been perfect.  Life demanded that we re-evaluate.  We are sticking to gluten-free, especially because my darling Ben has DEFINITELY had immediate, very unpleasant reactions to grain.  It runs in Adam's family, and I think he definitely has Celiac's disease.  We also have done completely away with preservatives, dyes, and MSG,  We aren't eating soy, and only WHOLE corn... not HFCS.  But we are eating dairy.  I think it will get easier when I am not working away form home anymore.

I had the wonderful experience this weekend of attending the Houston Catholic Women's Conference as their photographer... I even got a name badge.  ;)  I saw so many old friends, and even met a couple of new ones.

By far, the most wonderful thing about the day was that I got to talk with a priest about Blaise.  They had Confessions set-up, and I ended up getting a mini counseling session for a good 20 minutes.  I poured my heart out about what I've been thinking and feeling, and I got some very good advice, and prayer, and peace.  It hurts, and it will always hurt.  But talking with Father was very healing.

My body is still so out of whack, hormonally and with all the sinus/respiratory stuff.  I have another appointment tomorrow, and I am honestly dreading it.  Sometimes, I think I am just too broken to be fixed!  But I am praying I can be well.  I have been feeling SO much better in the last 2 months than I've felt in the previous 2 years.  

Today was hard, and it isn't really even worth getting into here.  But I will simply say, that for every time I surprised by how careless & cruel some people can be... I am equally surprised & comforted by how amazing, loving, compassionate & supportive others can be.  I have some really, really good friends.